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May 24th, 2010

I am open, LOVING and thankful!

When you have an open, loving and thankful heart life is nothing short of perfect! Nothing really ticks you off that much and whatever occurs in your life you can handle because you know how to reconnect with love and recreate harmony and balance.

How open, loving and thankful are you in your heart?

Here are some questions for you to answer for yourself:

How open am I towards other people’s uniqueness and their differences from me and what I know?
• I am very open
• I am somewhat open
• I am a little open
• I am somewhat closed
• I am very closed.

How judgmental am I of other people?
• Very judgmental
• Somewhat judgmental
• A little judgmental
• Somewhat non-judgmental
• Very non-judgmental

How genuinely loving and affectionate am I towards other people?
• Very loving
• Quite loving
• A little loving
• Quite un-loving
• Very un-loving

How thankful am I for the people in my life and how expressive am I of gratitude towards them?
• I am very thankful / grateful
• I am quite thankful / grateful
• I am sometimes thankful / grateful
• I am quite unthankful / ungrateful
• I am very unthankful / ungrateful

The truth is that whenever you feel you are out of balance in your relationships with other people it is time for you to do something about YOU!

Our issues with other people have less to do with them than they have to do with ourselves. Are you lovingly asking for what you want and coming from a place of love in doing so? Do you feel that receiving other people’s love is based on fulfilling their conditions? Are you yourself being conditional in your expressions of love towards others?

How do you suppose you are really, truly coming across? How are you conveying your message and your point of view? What do your actions say? What are your words saying? Do your words come out clearly in your actions? What are your facial expressions conveying? How are you really communicating with other people?

What we give is usually very close to what we get! Which means that we have to start “owning the message” we give out to the world.

If we give a little love, we may get a little love, if we show a little acceptance, we may get a little acceptance, if we demonstrate a little gratitude, we may get a little gratitude, and so on an so forth. The same goes for not giving any of these things, if we do not give any, we can’t be upset about not getting any. Yet, our whole motive cannot be about giving it “only” so we can “get” it! That’s not being unconditionally loving and it won’t trick anyone for long.

Have you noticed how everybody loves being around people who know how to be unconditionally loving, and how those same loving people also seem to know how to respect and love themselves. Being an unconditionally loving person means we love without conditions, we are not expecting anything just because we are giving our love, but even so it still does NOT mean that we give our power away and take whatever we get and accept it!

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May 18th, 2010

Will Smith’s Shares his Wisdom

“I have a great time with my life and I want to share it!”

“Greatness is not this wonderful esoteric, elusive, God-like feature that only the special among us will ever taste. It is something that truly exists in all of us. It’s very simple. This is what I believe and I am willing to die for it.”

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March 9th, 2010

The Law of Attraction Explained

To put it simply, what you truly believe… becomes!

According to the ‘Universal’ phenomena frequently referred to as The Law of Attraction your thoughts create your reality and you can influence your reality by the thoughts you think and believe.

There are three steps to this ‘Law’; Ask. Align and Allow:

1. ASK
Know what you want and actually ASK for it. Speak it out into the Universe. Focus on what it is you DO want and not on what you DON’T want. Be disciplined about where you are putting your FOCUS for whatever you focus on… grows!

2. ALIGN
This means to actually ALIGN your thoughts, feelings and actions on and to that which you want to attract. In my opinion this is the MOST important step yet it often receives the least attention. Without actual FOCUSED ACTION and Positive CHANGE on your part, what you wish to manifest in your life will have a hard time showing up. To get what you want you will have to actually DO something! Wishing and hoping entails no real creativity and will create nothing but more ‘wishing and hoping’, no creative creations get created without bold and creative actions.

3. ALLOW
Eliminate any resistance such as fear, doubt and worry and go into your KNOWING and KNOW that what you asked for IS going to happen for you. Notice any intuitive messages you receive, synchronicities and signs that show up to help guide you along the way to getting what it is you want. If you are ALIGNED in your beliefs and ACTIONS you are sure to receive what it is you want and manifest your dream into reality.

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February 23rd, 2010

Thinking happy thoughts…

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him. If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a shadow that never leaves him.”

Buddha

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February 9th, 2010

Loving ME

To be a loving person who is easily loving towards your spouse, kids, family, friends, work buddies, clients and even with your business and job, you have to first love your SELF!

The relationship you have with yourself is the blueprint that sets the tone and characteristics of your relationships with other people.

The secret to creating a successful, loving relationship with another lies in first learning and knowing how to love oneself.

Self-Love attracts good people and even more love into your life and it also quenches the “need” for someone else to “fill up your cup”.

We all know that we are to be considerate, kind, loving, accepting and generous towards other people but are we considerate, kind, loving, accepting and generous towards ourselves?

Do you ever tell yourself how amazing and wonderful YOU are? Do you acknowledge your inner and outer beauty, and your amazing gifts and talents? Do you demonstrate to yourself the qualities you wish to give to – and receive from others? Are you intimate, honest and respecting of yourself? Are you committed and faithful to you?

Your relationship with yourself will be mirrored in your relationships with other people. What we cannot give and receive from ourselves makes us lack an authentic ability to do so with others.

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December 3rd, 2009

Feeling stuck?

Sometimes we may feel as if we are completely and utterly stuck in our lives! And, we can’t help but focus on all the “proof” outside of ourselves of what is not working, and all we see are the ‘things’ that are in our way and out of our control. Our overactive minds create self fulfilling prophecies but when our thoughts are based on negative set points our mind is telling us that we are completely powerless, and that the world outside of ourselves has to change before we can change and feel any different.

Hence the cycle gets repeated, over and over again. Consciously and (mostly) subconsciously we fulfill our own prophecies. Whatever we focus on grows, and it gets bigger and bigger in our perception, rendering us more and more powerless against it or more and more POWERFUL with it… depending on the set-point we are coming from.

‘WE’ are always the ones who allow ourselves to be stuck! We choose not to change a thing, and whether we change something or not, we always have a choice! Not that deep down inside we know what it is that we have to change and let go of in order to move on and make real progress in our lives…

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October 15th, 2009

Tuning into YOU – Committing to YOU!

How aware are you of your inner Self? Who really is this person you refer to as “I” or “ME”?

Who is the YOU that rests behind the story of who you “think” you are?
You are not your body nor are you your mind although both are tools that are absolutely necessary for you to live and thrive in your human existence.

Our mind is our ego’s tool and it likes to believe that it is in charge! It is the computer that comes up with all the stories we consciously and subconsciously create for ourselves and for the people and events in our lives. Our brain’s job is to make sense of everything so it constantly analyzes and groups and categorizes information and creates systems of how everything works and operates.

In your first few years of life your brain is like a sponge, soaking up all the information that comes its way, trusting that this information is true and authentic, working non-stop on grouping and categorizing the information so it can create a system that ensures your survival in the world. When we were children our minds did not really question what adults said and did, we simply received the information, analyzed it and judged where it belonged and speedily placed it into the “right” group and category. “OK, to stay out of trouble – do NOT do ‘this’”, “To get approval – Do ‘that’” etc.

The variable is that not all of us are raised in the same environment and not all are raised in a truly positive and nurturing environment. Some are raised in a more ‘negative’ environment than others and receive less unconditional love, and affection, freedom and encouragement so the lens from which we view the world gets skewed or “dirty” and we view the world as if we are looking through grey colored and spotted lenses. The world may even appear to be quite dark and scary and it does not feel like a safe and happy place in any way.

When we let our often poorly programmed minds run the show we tend to be strictly reactive in our responses to whatever stimuli we receive. We come only from what we know, and use our past as a sure predictor of the future. We see and we hear, and feel we can completely trust our perception for nothing has ever proved to us that what we see and hear is not what really is… so it must be true! Our facts are THE facts!

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October 6th, 2009

Fake it till you make it!

Many years ago when I was a quiet and reserved girl in college, my girlfriend suggested we’d sign up for the theater together. Something in me ‘lit up” by that suggestion and as outrageous as that felt for someone who was as terrified of judgment as I was at the time, I simply knew I had to do it. It is amazing how your spirit has a way of guiding you in the right direction.

Our director was wonderful; a young and enthusiastic actor who showed up with passion and power for two whole semesters and picked out a challenging play for us to perform; Shakespeare’s Midsummer’s Night Dream.

On one of our first nights with him he used a common phrase; “you just have to fake it till you make it”. Man, did that one simple line resonate with me or what!? It pretty much became a mantra of mine for the next few years. I was definitely not comfortable with being in the “spotlight” in any way and feared even the “thought” of people judging me. Yet, that night I had a major light-bulb moment in realizing that nobody else actually knew this about me, meaning I could simply “act” as if being on stage and acting came easy to me. It sounded so simple, really. All I had to do was fake it!

I must admit that I did not show any remarkable acting skills playing Queen Titania, as I had a hard time stepping out of my self-consciousness, but the experience helped the ‘Real Me’ peak out of her shell a little bit even though only for a few seconds at a time. My choice to sign up for the school’s theater was definitely instrumental in my life and taught me new things about myself, such as that there were things I could do that I might think I couldn’t do. Whenever we step out of our comfort zones we tend to surprise ourselves with our own strength and courage which helps us gain more confidence for future challenges.

Later, I even jumped on the opportunity to participate in beauty pageants which felt somewhat “wrong” and outrageous at the time, and still later I decided to take some classes in public speaking to get more comfortable with speaking in front of people.

The girl that once clung on to her own few friends at parties and usually kept her head down to avoid having to make eye-contact, often counting the lines in the pavement, had surely faked her way towards appearing somewhat at ease in front of groups of people. Who would have thought she could do that?! Yet, nobody really knew that this wasn’t at all that easy for me. It is not as if I ever acted as if it was all that hard. I sort of kept that part to myself because in a way I was embarrassed for not having more confidence and for having so much self-doubt and fear in me.

The good thing is that I ended up being so good at faking it that eventually I fooled even myself and developed a new persona. In a way, faking it had caused me to make it!

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September 3rd, 2009

Be + Do = Have

There is no need to wait on HAVING what it takes before you can DO what you want to DO and BE who you are meant to BE.

BE who you are!
DO what you love doing.
And HAVE the life you want to live.

This is a great video with a great message… Watch and feel your inner creativity rise!

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August 17th, 2009

I am PERFECT!

I am perfect! Or maybe not?! There are things I do that I should not do, there are things I consume that I should not consume and there are things I say, that I should not say. Yes, that’s me! There is a yin in every yang. Like I tell my clients; nobody can be one hundred percent, one hundred percent of the time. Trying to be perfect all the time is actually a pretty solid recipe for failure. It makes more sense to find a balance you can live with, and a balance you are proud of, and can feel good about. Then all you have to do is stick with your own definition of the perfectly balanced YOU!

I tend to go by what I call the 80/20 rule. Eighty percent of the time I am at my best behavior and then I have the flexibility to allow myself 20 percent indulgence. If I eat 80% healthy 80% of the time, I feel great. If no more than 20% of my consumption is indulgence like coffee, toast and chocolate, I feel content and not deprived of anything. Every now and then I like to up my antics when it comes to my diet, health and lifestyle, and raise the bar to 90/10, and occasionally to 100%. One hundred percent is what is required if you get on a detox program, which is great for your health yet only realistic as a lifestyle change when it is a shorter term commitment, and you can see a light at the end of that tunnel:)

When at work, I am content with being 80 percent productive and 20 percent indulgent. It makes work so much more fun when I also create time to goof off on the internet, read the news, do research, take a break with a book, call a friend and listen to music. Then again, these are also some of the wonderful perks I get from working for myself. Plus, the 20% indulgence time is actually what provides me with much of the inspiration I receive for wanting to create something so it makes the 80% productive time, even more productive. For me, 80/20 is a good balance. It is actually so good, that it is pretty much perfect!

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