“Every thought vibrates, every thought radiates a signal, and every thought attracts a matching signal back. We call that process the Law of Attraction. The Law of Attraction says: That which is like unto itself is drawn. And so, you might see the powerful Law of Attraction as a sort of Universal Manager that sees to it that all thoughts that match one another line up.”

From Ask and It is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks

“The mind is everything. What you think you become.” – Buddha

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.” – Buddha

“Law of attraction says that all your thoughts, all images in your mind, and all the feelings connected to your thoughts will later manifest as your reality. In other words; everything you have in your life – now – has been attracted to you thru your mind.”

From Global Oneness http://www.experiencefestival.com/law_of_attraction

“Your imagination is your preview of life’s coming attractions.” -Albert Einstein

“We are not onlookers peering into the unified field of separate, objective reality – we are the unified field. We can reach beyond the physical body and extend the influence of intelligence. Every thought you are thinking creates a wave in the unified field. It ripples through all the layers of intellect, mind, senses, and matter, spreading out in wider and wider circles. You are like a light radiating not photons but consciousness. As they radiate, your thoughts have an effect on everything. Your relationship to life is the same as that of one cell to your whole body. One cell can talk to your whole body. One cell can influence your whole body. You can talk to the whole of life – influence the whole of life. The whole of life is as alive as we are. The distinction between ‘in here’ and ‘out there’ is a false one – as if the heart disregarded the skin because it was not on the inside.” -Deepak Chopra

“You are a creator; you create with your every thought.You often create by default, for you are getting what you are giving your attention to wanted or unwanted but you know by how it feels if what you are getting (creating) is what you are wanting or if it is not what you are wanting. (Where is your attention focused?)” -Abraham Hicks

To be a loving person who is easily loving towards your spouse, kids, family, friends, work buddies, clients and even with your business and job, you have to first love your SELF!

The relationship you have with yourself is the blueprint that sets the tone and characteristics of your relationships with other people.

The secret to creating a successful, loving relationship with another lies in first learning and knowing how to love oneself.

Self-Love attracts good people and even more love into your life and it also quenches the “need” for someone else to “fill up your cup”.

We all know that we are to be considerate, kind, loving, accepting and generous towards other people but are we considerate, kind, loving, accepting and generous towards ourselves?

Do you ever tell yourself how amazing and wonderful YOU are? Do you acknowledge your inner and outer beauty, and your amazing gifts and talents? Do you demonstrate to yourself the qualities you wish to give to – and receive from others? Are you intimate, honest and respecting of yourself? Are you committed and faithful to you?

Your relationship with yourself will be mirrored in your relationships with other people. What we cannot give and receive from ourselves makes us lack an authentic ability to do so with others.

More often than not people are in the habit of giving themselves anything but self-love. We are usually very good at reminding ourselves of how poorly we are doing and how much better we ’should’ and could be and we block our evolution by resisting self-love and acceptance because we are consciously and subconsciously buying into limiting (and untrue) beliefs about ourselves. These beliefs are often formed in childhood and influenced by parents, friends, society and media and may include thoughts such as; “I’m not good enough”, “I’m bad”, “I don’t deserve…”, “I’m unlovable”, “It’s not right to be this or that”, “I’m all wrong”, “I’m stupid, silly, ridiculous.” etc, etc.

Yet, your worth is a given. It is inherent by virtue that you exist! You are a spark of divinity, a miracle of creation itself, and we were all taught that God LOVES all his children, and finds them all of equal worth. But do we let ourselves truly FEEL that?

“Worth is a quality, not a quantity. You can neither add to nor diminish your worth. When you act or react in Reality to become more worthy, you will always fail. Stop trying to become worthy and start seeing your own worth.” – Lazaris

So my dear one… my invitation and challenge for you this week is to practice this art of self-love and acceptance, and see what it does for you. Be loving, kind and nurturing towards the amazing being that you are. Tune in with your self and tell yourself over, and over, and OVER all the positive things you can possibly think off that you already know to be absolutely true about you, such as; I love myself, I approve of myself, I accept myself, I am a good person, I am powerful, I am creative, I am bold, I am fun, I am loving, I am caring, I am a great parent, I am a good friend, I am funny, I am witty, I am reliable, I am giving, I can accomplish anything I want to accomplish, I am in control of my life, I am beautiful, I am a loving spouse. etc, etc, and then remind yourself of all the wonder you deserve in your life; … I deserve to be happy, I deserve a good life, I deserve to be healthy, I deserve love, I deserve all good things.. and basically whatever else may come to you.

Whenever you ‘hear’ your limiting thoughts surfacing, wanting to tell you otherwise, even telling you how silly or stupid this exercise is:)… just let those thoughts come and then float away as you bid them farewell and tell them “no, thank you, I am not buying into negativity”. Then, you can literally overwhelm those thought and fade them out with even more positive thoughts and affirmations. Our limiting beliefs have often been circulating in our minds for years and years so it can take some time and practice to get that habit off of its automatic setting and to consciously choose to think and feel differently.
I challenge you to try this out, as often as you possibly can, and say it out loud in the car, in the shower, to the mirror and then keep saying positive things to yourself even when you are around other people, although you may choose to do so in silence:)

YOU hold the key to change how you think, feel, and live your life. You have the power to literally ‘manufacture’ your own happiness.

Here’s to the Powerful, Creative, Loving YOU!

Happy Valentines Weekend…

1. Recommit to your relationship wholeheartedly! You must decide that you truly want your relationship to work.

2. Reflect back on the things that made you fall in love with your spouse in the first place. If either of you have changed then look for qualities in your spouse that you are still attracted to, and acknowledge the great aspects that came into light sometime later.

3. Be completely honest with your spouse. Let him or her know what you are feeling and thinking. If you have concerns in your life and/or about your relationship, share those concerns in an open and loving manner.

4. Communicate, communicate, communicate!!! Do not accuse, threaten or nit-pick about immaterial things. Those are wedges that can drive the strongest of relationships apart. Lack of communication is the reason relationships get stuck or start sliding backwards.

5. LISTEN! A solid relationship needs both partners to express themselves but more importantly to HEAR and understand what the other one is saying on a variety of subjects, without fear of judgment, rejection or being put down. Let the other person speak out before you read into what they are saying or give a response, and do not get stuck on single words or phrases and nit-pick on how the message is phrased or delivered. You can always ask for clarifications later and do so in an open and loving manner.

6. Change YOU & not your spouse. Accept that you cannot change your spouse, and realize that you do not have to wait for your spouse to change before you can start making changes for the better. Commit to practice the art of love and giving your relationship and your spouse truly focused time and attention. Put yourself in a loving frame of mind and say to yourself on a regular basis (and definitely prior to and during your communications with your spouse); I am open, loving and thankful.

7. Share YOU! Make yourself genuinely available to communicate and be intimate with your spouse and love and honor your relationship. Give your spouse what s/he wants the most; YOU! Share your story, your thoughts, fears, dreams, secrets, and hopes for the future. Your spouse is the one to whom you gave the key to your heart, but that heart can only be shared by your words and actions. The more we give of ourselves the stronger the bond between you gets and the more intimate and fulfilling the relationship becomes. All you really have to do is GIVE YOU!