Whatever he says is all true for ME too… this is why I’m so excited to be moving back to Iceland…
Viggo Mortensen is inspired by Iceland from Inspired By Iceland on Vimeo.
May 18th, 2010
Are you a Victim or an Owner of your LIFE?
It is said that people fall into one of two categories when it comes to their approach to LIFE. You can either be a Victim or an Owner.
Many great authors have written several books on this topic, one being Steve Chandler.
So how do you spot an Owner and/or a Victim? And which category do you fall into?
Here are some clear distinctions between victims and owners:
- Victims take no responsibility while Owners take full responsibility for their happiness and success in life.
- Victims like to tell you their sad stories but Owners focus on success stories.
- Victims talk about what happened to them in life and how that “made” them feel … Owners may tell you about their life experiences to emphasize what they’ve learned.
- Victims complain and complain, and usually complain some more … Owners learn, and learn and learn some more.
- Victims believe other people have control or are in control of their lives but Owners know they are in FULL control of theirs.
- Victims are generally unhappy with where they are and how their lives are progressing but Owners are happy with where they are and where they’re headed.
- Victims can make up and have many excuses for where, why and how they are while Owners do not use or buy into excuses.
- Victims focus on all the things that can, and probably will go wrong… so why bother trying … while Owners focus on creative steps and solutions.
- Victims REACT to whatever comes along, Owners use what happens to CREATE some more.
- Victims come from a place of FEAR! … Owners come from a place of LOVE.
What is your choice? Fear or Love?
May 13th, 2010
Thirteen Characteristics of Healthy and Successful Relationships
The following thirteen (13) aspects are typical for people who are in successful and healthy relationships:
People in Healthy Relationships…
1. Show appreciation, affection and gratitude to one another.
2. Welcome each other after time apart and show interest in hearing about the other’s day and activities.
3. Typically respond to one another’s verbal and non-verbal communications.
4. Can work cooperatively together on projects.
5. Go out together (outings, activities, entertainment, socializing).
6. Share life chores together (housework, meal prep, bills, childrearing etc).
7. Value most of each other’s choices and decisions and can respectfully talk about their differences.
8. Share and discuss their dreams and aspirations, and find shared values and meaning.
9. Review, share and talk about events in their shared and personal history.
10. Take pleasure in meeting each other’s needs for intimacy, passion and commitment.
11. Talk openly about their physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual needs.
12. Wish to stay together and keep enjoying their union and partnership.
13. Want happiness together and for one another.
If all of these pointers apply to your relationship you are definitely on to something absolutely amazing!
If quite a few of these pointers do not apply to your relationship, it may be time to give it some extra attention. Instead of putting your attention on how the other person is “showing up” in the relationship it may be of an even greater value to explore and notice how YOU are “showing up”. Are you being the best there is of you? Are you being the person you like to be?
Most relationship predicaments are rooted in unrealistic expectations and lack of open and loving communication. Any attitudes and beliefs based on; “I’m not good enough” and/or “You’re not good enough” will impair your happiness potential in any and all relationships whether it’s your relationships with other people or the relationship you have with yourself.
For advice on ‘rekindling’ relationships, check out the following article:
Seven Steps to Rekindling and Creating an Open and Loving Relationship
April 14th, 2010
What is Nirvana?
All suffering comes from wrong perceptions.
“The practice of mediations and of ‘looking deeply’ has the purpose of removing wrong perceptions from us.”
“If we are able to remove our wrong perceptions we will be able to be free from the the afflictions and suffering that always arrive from wrong perceptions.”
“Nirvana is FREEDOM! Feedom from VIEWS. All views are wrong views.”
June 10th, 2009
Powerful Creator of Your Reality
YOU are the POWERFUL CREATOR of YOUR REALITY!!!
Your reality today is the result of an accumulation of past choices, whether consciously or subconsciously created. Other people’s choices will always remain beyond your control, and events will inevitably take place in our lives that we have no control over… but we can always choose HOW we respond, and HOW we react, and we can choose to use any and all obstacles as opportunities to grow and evolve and CREATE a new reality.
The way I see it, when it comes to life, you have two choices; either you CREATE what you want into existence or you wait around and REACT to what hits you.
Which choice do you want to make?
Unfortunately, LIFE does not come with an actual manual, at least not one that we can read black on white. However, there is sort of an imprinted version of a manual resting in your higher self, above the ego and its stories. It sometimes shows up as a little voice inside of you, some sort of an all-knowing YOU that reminds you when you are doing what you want to be doing and being who you want to be. It is the YOU that is happy and fulfilled without having to receive anything external or materialistic to be that way.
When you exercise your “presence muscle” you are able to get in touch with that higher self, the part of you that is calm, and present, thankful, open, loving and peaceful. Simply by paying attention to your life and exercising awareness.
At any given moment you can be that person, but only if you set your ego aside and choose to pay attention to your life.
So what does the POWERFUL CREATOR want to create in life? How will we know unless we ask our higher self that question… If you want to get to know YOU some more, the authentic REAL YOU… then answering the following questions will be helpful.
What do I REALLY want in my life?
What am I REALLY wanting to achieve?
What do I want to CREATE in my life?
WHO do I want to BE?
When you discover the answers to these questions you can start defining the answers, i.e. writing out what the results would look like, for example, “I want to be a good parent”… Now, ask yourself What does it mean to be a good parent? What does that look like?
When you ponder what is the REAL goal and define what that looks like it will be much easier to create that into existence.
Then, each and every day you can take a few moments to consciously pay attention to WHO you are BEING and remind yourself of Who it is you REALLY Want to BE because who you are being in the NOW is who you become tomorrow.
Joy and Light,
Maja
June 4th, 2009
45 Lessons from life by Regina Brett 90 yrs. old.
Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio
“To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me.
It is the most-requested column I’ve ever written. My odometer rolled
over to 90 in August, so here goes:
1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. Love your parents because they will be gone before you know it.
11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry
13. Don’t compare your life to others’.. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: ‘In five years, will this matter?
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come.
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.
May 5th, 2009
Fear of Death
Ever experience your ego’s fear of death?
Physically we all die eventually. Life on Earth is a gift, a time to live, learn and grow, a time to be, perhaps just for the fun of it…
Here is a script for your fearful self:
“You who is afraid of dying… Let us hope you do… so the healthy YOU can really start living!”
May 4th, 2009
Don’t wait for the storm to leave, learn to dance in the rain!
Don’t wait for the storm to leave, learn to dance in the rain!
I love dancing in the rain, especially in the warm summer monsoons in sunny Arizona. It can feel both scary and serene at the same time with all the lightings and thunders, a sort of a liberating and calming experience. I make sure to get a rain dance into my schedule each July and August:)
For much of my younger life I sort of felt like I was surrounded by a storm, as if my life experiences were collections of gusts and winds, and lightning’s and thunders that I was to go through and weather. And, just like in storms and tornado’s insanely random things would pop up every now and again, just to keep life interesting:) Storms like to grow large and strong and preferrably suck up anything they come in contact with to take it along for the ride.
Somehow, I always managed to remain in the center of it all and I have never initiated any storms, at least not ones I know of. As much as I used to internalize things when I was a young girl a part of me was still and calm and just a quiet observer, watching, learning and growing, never getting fully sucked in to any kind of drama or chaos. I have often taken on the role of being the eye of the storm, sorting through the stimulation, emotions and information, trying to make sense of it all even when there is hardly a sense to be made, at least not until years later. Eventually all winds subside and die away.
Life can come with quite a few storms and we may even get hit by a few lightings along the way. It is in the face of our greatest challenges that we truly learn and grow and take leaps beyond our wildest imagination. Whatever winds come your way, you always have a choice in the matter. You choose how to respond. You choose whether or not to get sucked into a wind and let it take you for a mad spin or you can choose to move to the center of the storm where there is infinate calmness and observe the magic of your life from a distance. All situations can be seen clearly when we detach from the illusions that like to circulate around us. Whatever storms come your way, may it be imbalance, sickness, dis-ease or loss, YOU always hold within you your inherent power to choose. All storms are teachers, and sometimes it is simply so that when the student is ready the teacher appears. What we choose to create out of a situation is far more significant than the situation itself. You are the creative force in your life, you are the CREATOR of your reality.
Why wait for the storm to leave? Try dancing in the rain.
November 4th, 2008
Go VOTE!
Today is an important day in the history of mankind, the 2008 U.S. Presidential Election day. Regardless of the results, this day will be written about and remembered as a day that changed the course of the future. Anyone who legally can, please go out and vote! It will make you feel empowered to give your cause a voice and helps you move forward.
Do not sit and wait for things to change, and do not be a silent by-stander in life. As a human being who has a the privilege of living in a free world it is your right and your obligation to get up on your feet and do something to impact the world you live in.
Today’s message is: GO VOTE!
